Ditch the Doormat Syndrome

Set boundaries and make space for self-care

Today Harry and Sally discuss how important it is to implement Healthy Boundaries in your life – both personally and professionally. It helps combat the “doormat” syndrome and allows you to make space for self-care and to choose how you spend your time and energy. Remember – this is your life and your journey and you are in charge of your own choices. So many people wear themselves out because they don’t say “NO” often enough.

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Yes, it is difficult to set healthy boundaries for the 78% of women who are busy doing everything for everyone else

You fall in love, settle into a happy partnership, have babies and then all of a sudden you realise that you have lost touch with yourself. You have become a mum’s taxi, cleaner, cook, homework supervisor, nurse – all on top of the day job you might have. Your loss of identity gradually creeps up on you as the pressure of being a Supermum eats up more and more of you and your energy. A deep love for your family propels you to say yes to all those little jobs that fill your day.

Healthy boundaries involve mutual respect

Before you can successfully implement healthy boundaries. A lack of boundaries leaves you vulnerable to fill the needs of everyone else around you which can undermine your self-esteem and your identity.

Harry’s top three tips to Ditch Doormat Syndrome so you can rediscover yourself, respect and protect yourself and prosper

  1. Discover your core values and needs and LOVE yourself
  2. Determine your boundaries
  3. Declare them clearly, consistently and directly to those who take you for granted

Sally’s top three tips to Ditch Doormat Syndrome so you can increase your self-belief, self-esteem and your self-care

  1. Set a structure for your time and your day that serves you – plan your day with three items for the day
  2. Select what’s important in your life and what is good for your soul
  3. Strengthen up – so that you are able to say “No, I’m not available, “I don’t want to do that!” 

We also discuss the underlying importance of Intention (positive belief), Gratitude and Forgiveness

Recommended reading

  • Lynne Namka, The Doormat Syndrome, 1989

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